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Jun 13, 2016

What is a Pre-Schooler?

A pre-schooler is thought of as a child that is aged between 3 and 5 years. But regardless of whether they are 3, 4 or 5 they still need the a structure that creates boundaries for them and keeps them safe.

You are taking what you have implemented at the toddler stage, the routine that you have created for them and the communications patterns that you have established with them and you are building on these.

And if you haven’t had a good routine or a strong communications pattern with your child up to this time, don’t worry, it’s not too late to introduce this now. Your kids are far more adaptable than you think. They are not set in their ways. Any behaviour patterns that they are demonstrating now can be changed – it just takes awareness from the parent and dedication to changing this pattern.

The same issues as for toddlers – routine around eating meals, playing, sleeping and engagement with other children is important. It’s just more challenging at this time because your pre-schooler is trying to assert their independence and so they will push against you and challenge your authority.

Discipline for Pre-Schoolers

At this stage, your child is still trying to understand what is acceptable and not and so you may find that they continue to push and challenge you in their behaviour. Some parents experience the terrible twos and go on to discover that they don’t stop when your child turns three. Others escape the terrible twos only to discover that their child hits the terrible twos while they are three. Tantrums, shouting and stamping of feet can be a feature of this stage and so it is an important time for parents to remember that they are the adults and it is their responsibility to deal with this calmly.

Again, much the same as with toddlers, the purpose of discipline at this stage if to provide consistency, boundaries and ultimately to keep your child safe.

But the difference at this stage, is that your child is better able to understand when you explain what they have done wrong.

For you, explanation is key … in order to maintain discipline, you must be able to explain to them why they are on a time out or why you have taken away a toy etc. HOWEVER the difference at this age is that they will feel completely justified in telling you exactly why they did what they did (and whose fault it was) and chances are they will think that they were right. You need to remember, again that you are the adult. Your coping mechanism at this point is to be firm, explain why you are doing what you are doing and do not engage further in conversation with them … let them justify, justify, justify what they did but don’t get into a discussion with them about it.

This is also a good age to introduce star charts or reward charts as they can appreciate rewards and can start to comprehend that positive behaviour has benefits.

For more information on preschoolers and positive parenting, visit http://cacoaching.ie

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